Love is what everyone wants, yet we have such a hard time finding it. When you go through a bad breakup, the road to love can seem especially hard to walk down. Love is unique to everyone, so no two people can follow exactly the same steps to find it. Each individual must find their own path. There is no secret formula you can follow, but these tips can help you start moving in the right direction.


Love yourself

Before you can learn to love someone else, you must learn to love yourself. You cannot expect someone else to accept you for who you are, flaws and all, if you do not accept yourself. Take time to understand who you are as a person. Take note of the qualities you love about yourself and the ones that you feel you need to work on.


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Know what you want

There are so many people in this world to choose from, so narrowing down that search will make it that much easier. Make a list of morals that you want in a partner and divide them into three categories: must have’s, can compromise, not important. Really think about what you’re putting into the must have’s category, as these should be ideals that you will not compromise on. When you’re searching for love, make sure to only date those who fit well into your list because there’s no point in committing if this isn’t someone you could spend your life with.


Get out there

Love isn’t going to find you if you’re sitting at home in front of your computer all day. Take advantage of the opportunities laid out in front of you. Step out of your comfort zone, explore your area, and meet new people. There are so many friendly faces out there and so many chances at love if you would only step up and say hello.


Be open, be yourself

Don’t put on a mask and try to be who you think others want. Be who you are, because you are what someone wants. Don’t be afraid to open up with others and show them who you truly are. More than likely, they will respect you for having your views and opinions even if they’re not the same as their own.


Try, try again

Relationships fail, it’s a part of life. It can be tough recovering, especially from a particularly bad breakup, but just keep getting back up and trying again. The more you try, the closer you will come to success. It can be hard to see the big picture when you’re in the middle of it, but when you find the one you will be able to look back and see how everything truly fell into place and led to now.


Love is very hard to find, especially because there is no clear-cut path to follow. You have to know who you are, what you want, and never give up looking for it. Everyone’s special someone is out there, you just need to be able to get up and find them.


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