Everyone has those days when it feels as if the world is caving in, and there is nothing that could stop it. Rather than giving in to those sinking feelings, you can fight them by looking for the good.


Whether you have been going through a rough patch for a while now or you just had a bad day, here are five outlooks to keep in mind that can help you make it through.




1. As said in the Netflix original series, “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt,” anyone can stand anything for 10 seconds.

It may feel nearly impossible to push through the next couple of minutes, hours, days, but as Kimmy Schmidt suggests, just count out 10 seconds. When those 10 seconds are over, count out another 10 seconds. Anyone can push through anything for only 10 seconds, so keep counting through your 10. You will become so wrapped up in counting and pushing through those 10 seconds, you’ll be on the other side before you know it.


2. Look around. Find five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.

A common method used to reduce anxiety, stopping what you are doing to complete these five steps will calm you down significantly. Once you’re calmer, you will be able to better assess whatever situation you’re in and see it more clearly.


3. Talk it out.

Having a strong support group made up of people close to you can have a huge impact on how you view negative situations. Sitting down with the important people in your life and explaining how you are feeling will not only help you let out all of the thoughts built up in your mind, it will also allow your loved ones to add new perspectives to the situation.


4. Take time to yourself.

Put down whatever you have been working on and take some time to do things that help you relax. Read a book, play with your pets, watch some TV. You’d be surprised what even a short break can do to clear your mind and help you see the situation in a different light.


5. Ask for help.

There is no shame in needing help. Whether you are struggling with a simple math equation or are on the verge of doing something life threatening, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Beyond the support of family and friends, there are a number of places you can reach out to that can help ease the burden weighing on your shoulders. Helplines is an incredibly useful website that can help you find sources to reach out to for almost any circumstance.


What do you do to be more positive? Let’s talk here, or find me on Twitter @VictoriaRimer