What first comes to mind when the term “date night” is spoken? To folks who are not yet married, the concept of “date night” among married couples, is quite alien: don’t these people live together? Shouldn’t every day, outing, and dinner be considered a date? Although the act of dating the person you are living with may seem mundane, it has actually been shown to reduce issues such as cheating.


According to FindLove.com, the reason more people cheat is because there is an emotional disconnect between couples. Feeling wanted and desirable are more prominent reasons to cheat than the other person’s attractiveness or loss of love. Fox News Magazine says that “48 percent of men who have cheated said it was because of emotional dissatisfaction.”


In the beginning of a relationship, having a set date night may seem overkill, especially if you are going out multiple nights a week. But as things become busier, increased stress at work, children, and life in general, the enthusiasm to get up and go may fade. Setting a set time for date night, be it once a week or once a month, helps couples spend quality time together, without distractions.


Ideas for date night shouldn’t be limited to just dinner. Although it is best to spend time alone, it is also beneficial to mix up your outings. Try going out with other couples, going to an outdoor movie, or taking a dinner cruise. The idea is to keep your connection alive and remember what it was in the first place that attracted you to one another.


Another tip for couples is to stay updated on each other’s days. Psychiatrist Dr. Mark Goulston calls this a “weather” check. He says, “call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work.”


At the end of the day, there are many reasons people cheat and no easy solution. Every couple is different, but one thing that everyone can work on is their relationship. Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes effort. The little ways that you stay connected are the most important. There are tips, but no guidebook to staying in love. Dr. Goulston says couples should remember this mentality for a lasting relationship:

“If there was one key to happiness in love and life and possibly even success it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, ‘Just Listen’ and be more interested than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable.”


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