Being in a committed relationship is tough at any age, and it doesn’t always work out in the end. When the end rears its head, you need to know how to react and pick yourself back up. No one wants to fall into a slump and feel miserable all the time, so learning how to deal with breaking up is essential.


(Flickr/Carlos Sebastian)

(Flickr/Carlos Sebastian)

Stay away

Delete their number, throw out the pictures, and just generally try to stay away from areas where you may see your ex, if possible. The best way to get over someone is to not have any form of contact. The sooner you can get rid of them from your life physically, the sooner you will be able to get rid of the feelings attached to them.


Stay active

Don’t stay at home and mope over your loss. Instead, you should go out with your friends, maintain your normal schedule, and keep yourself busy. Busying your mind and your life will help you forget about your ex because you will be focused on so much already that there won’t be any time to let your thoughts wander back to them.



Breakups are emotional, so let yourself feel the pain for the first couple of days. It is okay to cry, scream, yell, or do anything else that helps you grieve over the loss of your relationship. Letting that emotion out immediately will prevent it from building up over time and ultimately making you feel more depressed.


Stay healthy

Make sure to keep your body healthy, as well as your mind, by eating and sleeping on a normal schedule. Find healthy outlets to let your emotions out rather than turning to drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes. If you need help maintaining your health, don’t hesitate in contacting a therapist.


Move forward

Don’t call your ex, don’t go where you know you will find them, and don’t stay hung up on the past. Recognize that the past is in the past and it is time to move on with your life. Push away all of the thoughts that make you want to go back to them, because you are much better off without them.


Stay strong, stay healthy, and keep going. It may be a hard few days, weeks, or even more, but you need to do what is best for you. Look forward to what is ahead rather than dwelling on the past. You will be back on your feet in no time.


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